What happens now?

What Happens Now?

What happens when someone you love, or think you love, has just physically hurt you? Your emotions run rampant, your adrenaline is pumping, you feel confused, hurt, and angry. Thoughts begin to race within your mind. Thoughts of how did this just happen? What did I do wrong? Why didn't I see this coming? Then you begin to make excuses for them, they are overtired, overworked, stressed out, or maybe they have an addiction to alcohol or drugs and you feel you said the wrong thing at the wrong time.

These are all common feelings that we, the survivors of abuse, will ask ourselves. Stop! Know this: It was NOT your fault!

The most important thing for you to understand is this is NOT love, this is Control! And it will continue until YOU take a stand for yourself, put your foot down and say Enough!

If you have found yourself in a volital situation, the most important thing for you to do is to flee to safety. Guaranteed, if he had done it once, he WILL do it again. It will only continue and only progress. If you feel your life has become threatened, contact 911 immediately. There are also many shelters available in all communities that will provide you a safe haven in an emergency situation.

While I do understand that emotional trauma which, comes from seeking out a safe haven, know that this is the Beginning of a new life for you. A new life without abuse. It's normal if you feel emotions such as embarrasment or humiliation, it's difficult to admit to yourselve that you have been deceived. Taking this step IS the first step to healing.

I would like to invite you to join the Sis Sacred Circle and find solace, comfort and companionship with other women who took a stand for the sake of their existence as well as the safety of their children.

Domestic Violence and Sexual abuse are rampant in our country and is an issue which, is very close to my heart. Not only have I been abused, but now I have passed these traits down to my youngest daughter who only recently fled for her own safety. When she asked me "Why do men have to hurt women?" I thought for a moment reliving my own past abusive relationships and then I realized, as painful as it might sound, "Because, WE, as women, Allow it to continue" What I mean by this is this: Each and every time we experience abuse in our relationships we accept the typical "I'm sorry, it will never happen again. I LOVE YOU!" Thus becomes the vicious cycle of abuse.

Healings of the Heart offers a unique and healing program to help promote going from a sense of "brokeness" to one of "empowerment"

With love and light

Tami

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