Establishing Boundaries

Why Do We Need to Establish Boundaries?

Let's start off by gaining a clear understanding of the definition of a boundary. A Boundary reflects your personal desires with a definite consequence from crossing or not respecting a set boundary. For example: "If you touch me in an inappropriate manner, our relationship will end" Is a boundary. Broken down, it clearly states that you have a personal desire to not be physically not be hurt by someone you love and the consequence for crossing the boundary is I will leave you.

Boundaries are not only important for adults, but also as a parent raising children. Our children's trust is developed between the ages of 3-6 years of age. Teaching young children your boundaries will help them to grow up with a sense of knowing that "If I do this, this is what I can expect"

What boundaries do you have for yourself? Maybe, you don't have any boundaries at all or maybe, you don't enforce the consequences. This happens sometimes because as children we were taught to be "obedient" This is a problem for many women raised in dysfunctional families, as it has taught us to become "people pleasers" and can might also take us down the path towards co-dependency.

Hyposis can help us to learn to love ourselves enough to establish healthy boundaries by placing suggestions of self-love, self-worth, etc into our subconscious minds. It also, enables you to return to a younger age and inserting assertiveness towards a family member or members which, then, enables us to have the self-confidence to begin establishing safe, healthy boundaries.

Let's not confuse boundaries with walls....Walls are a defense mechanism we put into place to push people away so we don't get hurt.

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Also, On Friday, January, 30th at 4:30 PM EST I wll be a guest speaking on this very same topic. You can listen by following this link
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With Love and Light
Tami

WWW.HEALINGSOFTHEHEART.COM

What happens now?

What Happens Now?

What happens when someone you love, or think you love, has just physically hurt you? Your emotions run rampant, your adrenaline is pumping, you feel confused, hurt, and angry. Thoughts begin to race within your mind. Thoughts of how did this just happen? What did I do wrong? Why didn't I see this coming? Then you begin to make excuses for them, they are overtired, overworked, stressed out, or maybe they have an addiction to alcohol or drugs and you feel you said the wrong thing at the wrong time.

These are all common feelings that we, the survivors of abuse, will ask ourselves. Stop! Know this: It was NOT your fault!

The most important thing for you to understand is this is NOT love, this is Control! And it will continue until YOU take a stand for yourself, put your foot down and say Enough!

If you have found yourself in a volital situation, the most important thing for you to do is to flee to safety. Guaranteed, if he had done it once, he WILL do it again. It will only continue and only progress. If you feel your life has become threatened, contact 911 immediately. There are also many shelters available in all communities that will provide you a safe haven in an emergency situation.

While I do understand that emotional trauma which, comes from seeking out a safe haven, know that this is the Beginning of a new life for you. A new life without abuse. It's normal if you feel emotions such as embarrasment or humiliation, it's difficult to admit to yourselve that you have been deceived. Taking this step IS the first step to healing.

I would like to invite you to join the Sis Sacred Circle and find solace, comfort and companionship with other women who took a stand for the sake of their existence as well as the safety of their children.

Domestic Violence and Sexual abuse are rampant in our country and is an issue which, is very close to my heart. Not only have I been abused, but now I have passed these traits down to my youngest daughter who only recently fled for her own safety. When she asked me "Why do men have to hurt women?" I thought for a moment reliving my own past abusive relationships and then I realized, as painful as it might sound, "Because, WE, as women, Allow it to continue" What I mean by this is this: Each and every time we experience abuse in our relationships we accept the typical "I'm sorry, it will never happen again. I LOVE YOU!" Thus becomes the vicious cycle of abuse.

Healings of the Heart offers a unique and healing program to help promote going from a sense of "brokeness" to one of "empowerment"

With love and light

Tami

WWW.HEALINGSOFTHEHEART.COM

Empowerment

Empowering Women

Too many times we as women are tossed aside as second hand people. We've had the stigma of being "barefoot and pregnant" Many women have reached out to break free of this stigma and have grown to become corporate executives, successful business owners and empowered women. To these women, I say "You are an Empowered Women"!

But what about the other women, the women who who strive to break free from chains of the past but have had little or no success. What about those women who feel trapped or stuck in a vicious cycle of trying to step out, seeking to break free but lack the confidence or the belief within to do so.

To these women, I say "YOU CAN DO IT!"

The journey of self-discovery can be a painful process but well worth it. Learning to look in the mirror, to see yourself from an objective point of view can sometimes bring emotional attachment to past traumas and beliefs. The willingness to look within, the willingness to seek and uncover those deep hidden aspects of self can bring forth a whole new, and empowered you!

To learn more about becoming an Empowered Women. Visit Healings of the Heart to learn about the many tools available to help you become empowered.

May the Light of your Spirit Guide You!

With Love and Light

Tami

WWW.HealingsoftheHeart.com

Sisters in Spirit Sacred Circle Community

Sisters in Spirit Sacred Circle

Sisters in Spirit is a community for women, by women to promote a safe, loving, nuturing, caring and healing environment to promote wellness and empowerment! Our mission is to bring healing to those who have suffered abuse of any kind. Violence and abuse are rampant in our society today. Bringing awareness and healings to these issues is very near and dear to my heart.

Throughout most of my life I have suffered from physical, mental, emotional and sexual abuse. It took me years to understand how this abuse had affected my own life. After many years of repeated patterns, poor choices in relationships and the need to feel loved and accepted, I became aware of the need to bring healing from the inside out.

It was this search that led me on my own journey straight to the Angels! Over the past several years I've experienced healings in many areas of my life. These experiences have ignited a passion deep within me to be of service to other women. To Heal, To Teach, and To Empower other women.

Please join with me now to bring healing to your own inner world by becoming a Sister to others and to your own Self. Visit Healings of the Heart and join the Sisters in Spirit Sacred Circle! United we can begin to bring healing, one woman at a time.

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With love and Light

Tami

www.HealingsoftheHeart.com