Putting the "U" back in You

Putting the "U" back in You!

Sometimes we wonder what happened to us. We wake up one day, we look in the mirror and we do not like what is looking back at us! As we gaze upon the women we see, we wonder, what has happened to that person we once used to be?

Life comes with many challenges and obstacles, sometimes they appear on the outside to be worse than they really are. It's easy to allow the struggles of life to cloud our judgments, to taint our thoughts, or to cause us to doubt our own intuition. Thus, we become caught up in the whirlwinds of chaos.

So, how do we get back to who we once were? While it's possible to return to who you once were, it is more important to realize where you are Now, to be in the present moment, then take stock of what should be released and what should then become integrated into the "Who" you would like to become.

Becoming the empowered woman, is a learning process. One, which doesn't happen overnight. Awareness is the key to initiate and create the changes we want to integrate into our lives. Once we become aware that change is required, we begin to seek within to uncover what changes are necessary. This inner discovery can cause one to shed old beliefs and out-dated patterns leading us towards a new found freedom in creating the changes we seek.

Once we begin creating the life we desire, we begin to see those parts of us that we had given away to others. We begin to realize that we cannot please all the people all the time, that there will always be someone out there who will be unhappy with choices we make. Now, we have granted our selves permission to honor our own thoughts, desires and purpose, which leads us towards empowerment!

Empowering women is my passion in life. I, too, have gone from a place of "brokeness" and have now moved into a feeling of "wholeness" and so can you! There is hope, there is peace, there is wholeness for every woman out there. As being a survivor of domestic violence, learning to put the "U" back in You is the first step in learning to love again, that person who is looking back at you in the mirror. You can learn more about becoming the empowered woman by requesting more information by visiting Healings of the Heart

With love and light

Tami

http://www.healingsoftheheart.com/

Boundary Settings and Hypnosis

How can hypnosis aid in establishing boundaries?

Hypnosis is a tool to help quiet and bypass the consciousness and speak directly with the subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind houses all our beliefs, learned behaviors and associations. It is also, where our automatic responses reside.

Our conscious mind holds within itself our abilities to reason, our logic, our decision making, and our will. It is the home of "ego." Through hypnosis, we can bypass our defense mechanisms and go straight to re-programming our old, out-dated beliefs.

Chances are if we grew up in a dysfunctional family, like myself, we never were blessed with the skills to learn how to set proper boundaries. We become "people pleasers" or worse, "doormats!" These behaviors have become some ingrained within our subconscious, that we aren't even aware that we are reacting to these old patterns of behavior.

Through hypnosis, it's possible to return somewhere between the ages of 3 - 6, apply some assertive behaviors towards a family member who left us, once with a sense of disempowerment. Believe it or not, this one step, not only builds our self-esteem, but our confidence as well. Hypnosis is a safe and effective means to bring about behavioral change.

If you are one of the millions, like myself, who have little or no boundaries and allow others to treat you poorly, or if you are a parent with children who act out, learn more about how hypnosis can help!

May the Light of Your Spirit Guide You!

With Love and Light

Tami

WWW.HEALINGSOFTHEHEART.COM

Establishing Boundaries

Why Do We Need to Establish Boundaries?

Let's start off by gaining a clear understanding of the definition of a boundary. A Boundary reflects your personal desires with a definite consequence from crossing or not respecting a set boundary. For example: "If you touch me in an inappropriate manner, our relationship will end" Is a boundary. Broken down, it clearly states that you have a personal desire to not be physically not be hurt by someone you love and the consequence for crossing the boundary is I will leave you.

Boundaries are not only important for adults, but also as a parent raising children. Our children's trust is developed between the ages of 3-6 years of age. Teaching young children your boundaries will help them to grow up with a sense of knowing that "If I do this, this is what I can expect"

What boundaries do you have for yourself? Maybe, you don't have any boundaries at all or maybe, you don't enforce the consequences. This happens sometimes because as children we were taught to be "obedient" This is a problem for many women raised in dysfunctional families, as it has taught us to become "people pleasers" and can might also take us down the path towards co-dependency.

Hyposis can help us to learn to love ourselves enough to establish healthy boundaries by placing suggestions of self-love, self-worth, etc into our subconscious minds. It also, enables you to return to a younger age and inserting assertiveness towards a family member or members which, then, enables us to have the self-confidence to begin establishing safe, healthy boundaries.

Let's not confuse boundaries with walls....Walls are a defense mechanism we put into place to push people away so we don't get hurt.

If you are interested in learning more about healing with hypnosis, you can click on the link below and register for special session pricing during the month of January.
Also, On Friday, January, 30th at 4:30 PM EST I wll be a guest speaking on this very same topic. You can listen by following this link
AttractTheLifeYouDesire

With Love and Light
Tami

WWW.HEALINGSOFTHEHEART.COM

What happens now?

What Happens Now?

What happens when someone you love, or think you love, has just physically hurt you? Your emotions run rampant, your adrenaline is pumping, you feel confused, hurt, and angry. Thoughts begin to race within your mind. Thoughts of how did this just happen? What did I do wrong? Why didn't I see this coming? Then you begin to make excuses for them, they are overtired, overworked, stressed out, or maybe they have an addiction to alcohol or drugs and you feel you said the wrong thing at the wrong time.

These are all common feelings that we, the survivors of abuse, will ask ourselves. Stop! Know this: It was NOT your fault!

The most important thing for you to understand is this is NOT love, this is Control! And it will continue until YOU take a stand for yourself, put your foot down and say Enough!

If you have found yourself in a volital situation, the most important thing for you to do is to flee to safety. Guaranteed, if he had done it once, he WILL do it again. It will only continue and only progress. If you feel your life has become threatened, contact 911 immediately. There are also many shelters available in all communities that will provide you a safe haven in an emergency situation.

While I do understand that emotional trauma which, comes from seeking out a safe haven, know that this is the Beginning of a new life for you. A new life without abuse. It's normal if you feel emotions such as embarrasment or humiliation, it's difficult to admit to yourselve that you have been deceived. Taking this step IS the first step to healing.

I would like to invite you to join the Sis Sacred Circle and find solace, comfort and companionship with other women who took a stand for the sake of their existence as well as the safety of their children.

Domestic Violence and Sexual abuse are rampant in our country and is an issue which, is very close to my heart. Not only have I been abused, but now I have passed these traits down to my youngest daughter who only recently fled for her own safety. When she asked me "Why do men have to hurt women?" I thought for a moment reliving my own past abusive relationships and then I realized, as painful as it might sound, "Because, WE, as women, Allow it to continue" What I mean by this is this: Each and every time we experience abuse in our relationships we accept the typical "I'm sorry, it will never happen again. I LOVE YOU!" Thus becomes the vicious cycle of abuse.

Healings of the Heart offers a unique and healing program to help promote going from a sense of "brokeness" to one of "empowerment"

With love and light

Tami

WWW.HEALINGSOFTHEHEART.COM

Empowerment

Empowering Women

Too many times we as women are tossed aside as second hand people. We've had the stigma of being "barefoot and pregnant" Many women have reached out to break free of this stigma and have grown to become corporate executives, successful business owners and empowered women. To these women, I say "You are an Empowered Women"!

But what about the other women, the women who who strive to break free from chains of the past but have had little or no success. What about those women who feel trapped or stuck in a vicious cycle of trying to step out, seeking to break free but lack the confidence or the belief within to do so.

To these women, I say "YOU CAN DO IT!"

The journey of self-discovery can be a painful process but well worth it. Learning to look in the mirror, to see yourself from an objective point of view can sometimes bring emotional attachment to past traumas and beliefs. The willingness to look within, the willingness to seek and uncover those deep hidden aspects of self can bring forth a whole new, and empowered you!

To learn more about becoming an Empowered Women. Visit Healings of the Heart to learn about the many tools available to help you become empowered.

May the Light of your Spirit Guide You!

With Love and Light

Tami

WWW.HealingsoftheHeart.com

Sisters in Spirit Sacred Circle Community

Sisters in Spirit Sacred Circle

Sisters in Spirit is a community for women, by women to promote a safe, loving, nuturing, caring and healing environment to promote wellness and empowerment! Our mission is to bring healing to those who have suffered abuse of any kind. Violence and abuse are rampant in our society today. Bringing awareness and healings to these issues is very near and dear to my heart.

Throughout most of my life I have suffered from physical, mental, emotional and sexual abuse. It took me years to understand how this abuse had affected my own life. After many years of repeated patterns, poor choices in relationships and the need to feel loved and accepted, I became aware of the need to bring healing from the inside out.

It was this search that led me on my own journey straight to the Angels! Over the past several years I've experienced healings in many areas of my life. These experiences have ignited a passion deep within me to be of service to other women. To Heal, To Teach, and To Empower other women.

Please join with me now to bring healing to your own inner world by becoming a Sister to others and to your own Self. Visit Healings of the Heart and join the Sisters in Spirit Sacred Circle! United we can begin to bring healing, one woman at a time.

You can also subscribe to my other blog SISSacredCircle

With love and Light

Tami

www.HealingsoftheHeart.com

Introduction to Women's Spirituality

From Awakening to Empowerment

It’s MY life and I’m taking a Stand!

We as women were raised in an environment which taught us to be care-givers, subserveant to our mates, to not upset the status quo, to be seen and not heard, we were expected to be doormats to others, shunned by corporate America and organized religion, treated as second class citizens. No longer shall we stand for or accept this form of treatment, it is our Natural BIRTHRIGHT, as we are all ONE with Source, with our Creator, to becoming Empowered.

This is Not a program about women’s lib or for equal rights….. it is a program designed for women (men are also welcome) to teach women to heal the wounds, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual wounds caused by abuse. If you are or have been a victim of Domestic Violence, Rape or Assualt, Sexual Molestation either as a child or as an adult, or maybe the abuse you suffer from is not as severe as the above mentioned, however, if you've been told you’re stupid, you can’t make it without me, you need me, if words by a loved one has shattered your self-esteem, if you have feelings of hopelessness, mental and emotional abuse are still Abuse!

If you feel you are or have been isolated by the one you love, these are symptoms of abuse. Then this Women’s Spirituality Program was designed for You!

Have you ever felt like this before, like you are less than a person? That you are or have been taken advantage of? Are you expected to behavior in certain ways? Are you made to feel inferior to your mate? Have you ever been told that you need someone else to survive or that you can’t make it on your own? Ever been called Stupid?

You are NOT alone!

Almost every woman I know or have spoken too, have, at sometime in their lives have shared these thoughts, feelings, etc….

And if you have never suffered abuse in your life, you are of a rare breed, however, you will still receive many benefits dancing your own dance towards Empowerment!

While this program is geared towards women who have suffered from variations of abuse, it is designed for All women (and for men who feel drawn to become re-united with the Divine Feminine) who choose the dance of Empowerment.

Take a Stand

This program in Women’s Spirituality is designed to take you from wherever you currently are in your life now, to help guide you, direct you, lead you and educate you to a better way of living.

As you begin to Dance the Dance of Life, you’ll learn how to free yourself from the feelings, emotions and acts which have held you bondage, you will begin the awakening process and move into a more spiritual way of being. You’ll learn how to communicate with the Goddess within, with the Angels, and explore the Mary Magdalene within. You’ll work with her to discover true Divine within.

Once you have completed the lessons of the Divine Feminine, you’ll dance your way into the Sacred relationship. You’ll learn to live within Duality, where Feminine and Masculine energies live in Truth and Peace with one another.

Learn to live in a world of Self-Empowerment! Free Yourself!

Setting the Stage towards Empowerment

Course 1

As the first course of three, in the Women’s Spirituality Program, it is designed to re-shape & re-design your life from the inside out. After re-shaping and re-designing, you’re moved into a state of reflection & resting which moves you to a Higher place of developing your spiritual growth. Moving on now….as you begin the journey of the “Dance of the Spirit” you will walk along the path of:

Awakening, the first step, the initial step in our spirituality.

Dis-Covery – the next stop is the experience, looking for what makes us uniquely US..

Creating – recognizing we are part of the universal rhythm, finding your music within

Dwelling – the center point of spirituality, weaving the fabric of our Souls.

Nourishment – your spiritual growth needs to be nourished or we develop dry skin of the Soul. Feed yourself.

Traditioning – Passing on our spiritual lessons to our young – building a healthier, more loving, and spiritual future.

Transforming - Find yourself, renew yourself, we are the messengers of love and light. Learning the skills of listening, questioning, mourning and bonding.

This course is a prerequisite as it is the building block of the entire women’s spirituality program. As we dance together in Spirit we will explore many areas of our lives. Some of the areas we will cover include:

- Learning to Love Ourselves, Body and Spirit
- Attitudes & Approaches Towards Awakening
- Stop Believing in Lies
- The Three Movements
- Exploring Dis-covery itself
- Befriending the Discoveries
- Incorporating the Dynamics
- What is meant by “creating”
- The Laws & Practice of Creating
- What, Where & with Whom you Dwell
- The Practice of Dwelling & Nourishment
- What is a Traditioner’s Role & What Qualities are necessary.
- The Practice of Traditioning
- Listening, Questioning, Mourning, Bonding, and Birthing
- And more……….

Special Introductory OfferThis is a brand new program being offered here at Healings of the Heart. We are proud to offer it in hopes that one life, one heart may become Empowered and Healed!This program WILL change your life if you work it. Just like anything else good in life, you MUST Participate, you MUST take Action. This program will Not allow you to sit idle!

It is my hopes to take this program to every women around the world.

It is also my hopes to work with shelters, centers, communities alike. If you are interested in hosting a workshop in your community, please email me and we can discuss all the particulars.I believe so strongly in this program and want every women to become Empowered, that I am making it available at a special low price!

IT'S YOUR LIFE, TAKE A STAND!

For more information visit

http://www.healingsoftheheart.com/womenspirituality.html

With Love and Light

Tami